I’m Not Excited About Having A Girlfriend Anymore

Roughly a month ago, I had a sit down dinner with one of my best friends. While talking she mentioned she wasn’t excited about her boyfriend, the way she was when they first met.

“Do you still love him?” I asked.

“Yes!”

“Do you still care for him?”

“Yes!”

“Do you still want to be with him?”

“Yes!”

I suggested the reason her excitement has diminished is because he’s a part of her every day routine. It doesn’t mean there isn’t any excitement, but it’s not a shock that she has a boyfriend. The same happens with friends. When I meet a new friend I’m always excited to hang out with them and invite them to many activities. Overtime the excitement fades into normalcy, they’re a friend and a part of my life.

Three months into my relationship with Rule Breaker, the same feeling has come over me. I’m not excited about having a girlfriend anymore. With each passing day, I’ve become comfortable with the knowledge that I am in a relationship with a wonderful, attractive woman.

The honeymoon period has run it’s course for me. I no longer feel apart of some dream or in shock about my current relationship. Even though it’s been three months, she’s a part of my life, a part of my day to day. The things I were accustomed to doing alone in the past, don’t feel natural anymore.Going to an event, or even a bar alone doesn’t feel right, if anything it feels awkward when she’s not with me. It’s almost as if having this woman in my life is normal.

Just because I’m not excited about having a girlfriend, doesn’t mean I’m not excited about my girlfriend. Those are two different situations. I’m excited when I see her, when I spend time with her, and plan dates with her. I’m at the point where I believe I SHOULD have a girlfriend, (especially one like her).

We all come to a point where new routines feel normal. If there isn’t some form of communication between Rule Breaker and I throughout the day, I feel odd, as if something isn’t right. If I don’t see her at last once a week, I feel a bit strange, if not a bit lost. She’s become an important part of the day to day fabric of my life, which I believe is more important than being excited about having a girlfriend. Relationships based on excitement aren’t often long lasting. Excitement tends to fade.

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http://vedadate.com/member/blog_post_view.php?postId=7729

https://moslitski70.blogspot.com/

http://mirror.argylesocial.com/view/loveawake.com

 

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